Move bazel to c++17 (#89297)

Splitting out various smaller pieces from https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/85969
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/89297
Approved by: https://github.com/huydhn

.bazelrc

@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-build --cxxopt=--std=c++14
+build --cxxopt=--std=c++17
 build --copt=-I.
 # Bazel does not support including its cc_library targets as system
 # headers. We work around this for generated code

third_party/gloo.BUILD

@@ -75,8 +75,7 @@ cc_library(
         ]
     ) + if_cuda(glob(["gloo/cuda*.cc"])),
     copts = [
-        "-std=gnu++11",
-        "-std=c++11",
+        "-std=c++17",
     ],
     visibility = ["//visibility:public"],
     deps = [":gloo_headers"] + if_cuda(