[BE] Prefer dash over underscore in command-line options (#94505)

Preferring dash over underscore in command-line options. Add `--command-arg-name` to the argument parser. The old arguments with underscores `--command_arg_name` are kept for backward compatibility.

Both dashes and underscores are used in the PyTorch codebase. Some argument parsers only have dashes or only have underscores in arguments. For example, the `torchrun` utility for distributed training only accepts underscore arguments (e.g., `--master_port`). The dashes are more common in other command-line tools. And it looks to be the default choice in the Python standard library:

`argparse.BooleanOptionalAction`: 4a9dff0e5a/Lib/argparse.py (L893-L895)

```python
class BooleanOptionalAction(Action):
    def __init__(...):
            if option_string.startswith('--'):
                option_string = '--no-' + option_string[2:]
                _option_strings.append(option_string)
```

It adds `--no-argname`, not `--no_argname`. Also typing `_` need to press the shift or the caps-lock key than `-`.

Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/94505
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang, https://github.com/seemethere

tools/linter/adapters/clangtidy_linter.py

@@ -204,6 +204,7 @@ def main() -> None:
         help="clang-tidy binary path",
     )
     parser.add_argument(
+        "--build-dir",
         "--build_dir",
         required=True,
         help=(