[build] modernize build-frontend: python setup.py develop/install -> [uv ]pip install --no-build-isolation [-e ]. (#156027)

Modernize the development installation:

```bash
# python setup.py develop
python -m pip install --no-build-isolation -e .

# python setup.py install
python -m pip install --no-build-isolation .
```

Now, the `python setup.py develop` is a wrapper around `python -m pip install -e .` since `setuptools>=80.0`:

- pypa/setuptools#4955

`python setup.py install` is deprecated and will emit a warning during run. The warning will become an error on October 31, 2025.

- 9c4d383631/setuptools/command/install.py (L58-L67)

> ```python
> SetuptoolsDeprecationWarning.emit(
>     "setup.py install is deprecated.",
>     """
>     Please avoid running ``setup.py`` directly.
>     Instead, use pypa/build, pypa/installer or other
>     standards-based tools.
>     """,
>     see_url="https://blog.ganssle.io/articles/2021/10/setup-py-deprecated.html",
>     due_date=(2025, 10, 31),
> )
> ```

- pypa/setuptools#3849

Additional Resource:

- [Why you shouldn't invoke setup.py directly](https://blog.ganssle.io/articles/2021/10/setup-py-deprecated.html)

Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/156027
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang

test/test_cpp_extensions_aot.py

@@ -148,7 +148,7 @@ class TestCppExtensionAOT(common.TestCase):
 
     @unittest.skipIf(IS_WINDOWS, "Not available on Windows")
     def test_no_python_abi_suffix_sets_the_correct_library_name(self):
-        # For this test, run_test.py will call `python setup.py install` in the
+        # For this test, run_test.py will call `python -m pip install .` in the
         # cpp_extensions/no_python_abi_suffix_test folder, where the
         # `BuildExtension` class has a `no_python_abi_suffix` option set to
         # `True`. This *should* mean that on Python 3, the produced shared